Are you happy?
How do you know whether you’re happy or not?
These questions are asked frequently and have been the subject of lots of political debate in the UK over the last few years! Which started me thinking – what do Happy People do differently?
This list of 12 things happy people do is my starter for ten – see what you think…
#1 – They Express Gratitude
When you appreciate what you have, what you have appreciates in value! Don’t you find this. The more that you appreciate something, the more that something means to you, You get more pleasure from it. So, be more grateful for what you have – until you are, it will be very difficult in attracting more good things into your life. If you aren’t thankful for what you already have, you’ll have a hard tim ever being happy. See this earlier post on GratitudeThe more you appreciate something, the more that something means to you, the more pleasure you get from it. Click To Tweet
#2 – They Cultivate Optimism
Those people that think optimistically see the world as a place packed with endless opportunities. How optimistic are you? Are you a glass half full or half empty type of person? Develop an expectation that only good things will happen to you and you’ll be amazed at just how much positive opportunities suddenly appear.
#3 – They Avoid Over-thinking and Social Comparison
Comparing yourself to someone else can be poisonous – more often than not you’ll see deficiencies in your world and react negatively to them. This in turn will create more despondency and you are quickly on the downward spiral resulting in a massive dent in your self esteem. So, what’s the answer? Stop doing it – that’s what! The only person you should be comparing yourself with is you – how much progress are you making in moving your life closer to the life that you desire!
#4 – They Practice Acts of Kindness
Ever heard the term – “Givers Gain”? What does it mean? On one level it links to the ‘Paying it Forward’ approach – by undertaking an act of kindness to one person now will be returned at some later date, probably by someone else. However, this under-estimates the positive feeling that you get when you selflessly help someone – it is probably the most powerful way to feel good inside.
#5 – They Nurture Social Relationships
What are your relationships like at the moment? Are your relationships with your family, friends, colleagues fulfilling or do they drain you emotionally and mentally? The happiest people on the planet are those that enjoy deep meaningful relationships with others. How do you go about nurturing these relationships? Well, a good way to start is to look out for opportunities for others, when you spot something that you think will interest one of your friends, take a copy and send it to them. Keep in touch both online and offline. Remember key days such as birthdays or anniversaries of key events. By remembering, you’ll demonstrate instantly how much the relationship means to you.
#6 – They Develop Strategies for Coping
Let’s not kid ourselves, life isn’t and will never be a bed of roses! Whatever you are striving for, when you achieve it, I can guarantee one thing – you will still have challenges to overcome, so it makes sense to have healthy strategies for coping with difficult circumstances, learning how you will respond more positively when things don’t go according to plan. What do you do now? What impact does this have on how you feel about yourself?
# 7 – They Learn to Forgive
If someone has done something to you that has had a negative impact on your life, until you completely and utterly forgive them, the impact will still be felt. Whatever has happened, you have it within your power to take control of the situation and forgive. Until you do, the feeling of hatred will significantly impact your ability to feel happiness again!
# 8 – They Increase Flow Experiences
Flow is a state in which time appears to stands still. It’s when you are so focused on what you’re doing that you become one with the task in hand. Sportspeople talk about being ‘in the zone’ when they know with absolute certainty that they will deliver the best performances. You can get into the same mindset in your daily life by becoming better at planning your time – don’t let anything distract you or compete for your focus – just concentrate on the task in hand.
# 9 – They saviour life’s joys
Deep levels of happiness cannot exist without slowing down to enjoy the joy of life. Take a minute now to look around you and simply take in the real joy of life – what can you saviour right now? It might be the past weekend that you have spent with the family, the walk in the park that you’ve just taken, the beautiful skyline that you can see out of the window. Whatever it is, take a moment to soak it in. Think about these words that happy people live their life by.
# 10 – They Commit to Their Goals
Magical things start to happen when we commit ourselves to doing whatever it takes to achieve our goals. The sheer act of writing down a clear set of goals and objectives stimulates our subconscious mind to deliver opportunities that will help to achieve these goals and objectives. Committing to them daily and focusing upon them only adds fuel to the fire.
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# 11 – They Practice Spirituality
When we practice spirituality or religion, we recognise that life is bigger than us. We surrender to the silly idea that we are the mightiest thing ever. Accepting this can be the real difference between a life of contentment and one of frustration. Life has a way of recognising those that put other’s first, that accept that we are put on this planet to serve. Ask yourself – what is your purpose in life – the answer that you come up with will act as you guide from now onwards.
# 12 – They Take Care of Their Body
How can you be happy if you are in constant pain? How can you be happy if you are unable to live a fulsome life? Happy people look after themselves. They make the most of what they have got. They don’t risk their future happiness by taking short term pleasure from things that may affect their health. Your journey in life needs a vehicle and your body is that vehicle – look after it and it will continue to deliver wonderful experiences.
So there you have it – the 12 things that I believe happy people do differently – how do you compare?
What can do take from these twelve and implement into your life right now?
You will lead a happier, more fulfilling life if you adopt some or all of these principles.
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